How confident are you?
Let’s see –
If I asked you to drive your car a couple miles around town – and then come back here –how many of you are confident that you could do it?
What if I asked you to drive the car without using any of your mirrors?
You probably feel you could do it, but may have had to briefly “check in with yourself” – play it out in your mind – very briefly – to be sure. For most of us, there was probably just a little pause – a little hesitancy – and once we felt that we could do it, our confidence level rose.
Now… what if I asked you to drive the car, using no mirrors and no brakes?
Are you beginning to get a little nervous? Or think that I’m a little crazy?
Did you feel your confidence shift from “Oh, no problem” in the first situation, to “let me think about it – okay I can do that” in the second scenario? To “No, I don’t think I could drive with no brakes and make it back safely – in fact I wouldn’t even want to try”?
Today, we’re not going to talk about driving a car, but about what is driving your confidence.
Confidence is an odd thing, isn’t it? Many days we feel the most confident about the things that we do on auto-pilot. We feel confident about the tasks we know how to perform and can predict the outcome of.
Lack of confidence, on the other hand, shows up when we are not sure how well we can perform – or measure up – and we are not sure of the outcome.
In this article series I’m going to answer the three most common questions I get about confidence:
- What is confidence?
- How do I get more confidence?
- How do I maintain a confident presence?
These are important questions to ask and answer for several reasons.
With all the changes in our world and economy, our confidence has been somewhat shaken lately, wouldn’t you agree? The economy has taken an unprecedented nose dive. The job market is more difficult than ever before. And no one is painting a particularly bright future with climate change.
Additionally, if you are like most people I know and work with, you are not as sure as you might have once been about your own ability to keep up with such a rapidly changing world. In fact, if you are like me, you barely figure out one type of technology before it is completely obsolete — and don’t even ask me the difference between a twitter and a tweet – Oye!!
And another reason the answers to these questions are so important to you is this:
Confident people are generally happier people. Of course, most of us know that confident people are happier and that they seem to be the ones who “get ahead” in life.
But for the record ~ numerous studies indicate that happy people are more confident, and therefore are more successful in all aspect of their lives, specifically in their careers and relationships.
What may be even more important to know is that confidence and happiness have a direct link to positive mental and physical health and longevity.
And for most of us, the allure of happiness, success and health is enough for us to look seriously at what drives our confidence.
So, that’s your taste of what we are going to cover over the next few days…check back tomorrow and let’s get started reclaiming our gift of “kick-ass” confidence!