We want to feel more confident and be more confident and have others see us as being confident, but the truth of the matter is that there are days when we fall short. Actually, I think that feeling insecure is probably one of the most common personal issues we all face today and resist admitting. Let’s face it, self-confident people have qualities that everyone admires. Confident people appear to be light and happy. Self-confident people inspire confidence in others. We like, respect, believe, and even tend to trust (instinctively), people who are self-confident.
Self-confidence isn’t just the way we act but rather it is the outco me of what we do, or more accurately, the by-product of “right living. ”Have it and have success. Don’t have it and find ourselves home on Saturday night watching reruns of Seinfeld instead of making a move on that hottie in the lounge emulating moves of Fonzie.
Some people appear naturally confident but guess what? They’ve learned how to be that way and so can you!
5 Ways to Increasing Self Confidence
- Keep a Journal- Write down what self-confidence looks like to you. Identify those people who have confidence. How do they behave? Question where you are in your life and where you want to go. Be honest with yourself and write down all the thoughts surrounding your questions. The key here is to begin to understand yourself mentally, spiritually and physically.
- Acceptance- Accept who you are. Practice loving your unique qualities and abilities. We are all different for a reason. Affirm this to yourself by repeating these words: “Today I will accept myself just as I am” during your morning meditation. Done consistently, our perception of our self will be influenced toward ending the inner struggle.
- Surrender and Let the Past Go
